Comments on: Michael Jackson and The Five Stages of Grief: Denial http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/2009/06/michael-jackson-and-the-five-stages-of-grief-denial.html Pontifications, coonery, quips, blasphemy, miscegenation, freshness, concern for celebrity life, the beauty of blackness, the sorrow of work-life, the curse of brilliance, and sassy stories. [Pop culture criticism, entertainment reviews, and humor writing by Thembi Ford.] Mon, 14 Mar 2011 15:35:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Shanika P. Carter http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/2009/06/michael-jackson-and-the-five-stages-of-grief-denial.html/comment-page-1#comment-21607 Shanika P. Carter Wed, 01 Sep 2010 01:03:23 +0000 http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/?p=1909#comment-21607 Thanks so much for this Thembi-I love it! It's a year later and his birthday was just this past Sunday and I took the time to watch all my MJ videos, movies, recorded DVR shows and such I recorded from this past June because of how busy life has gotten and just not having the time to do so. Life goes on, but I was going to make that a day to celebrate MJ's life because I have so many memories from the time I was a little girl and discovered my love for the man and his talent. I remember being a little girl having to climb in a chair to reach my mom's record player just so I could play Off the Wall over and over again (and dance with MJ in that fold-out album cover!); my first cassette tape to go with my first walkman was Thriller; I wish I still had the Thriller jacket, MJ dolls, Jacksons watch that sang "Body", MJ buttons and posters, and other memorabilia as keepsakes still! :) Although Sunday was to be a time to celebrate what would have been his 52nd birthday, I found myself getting sad at times because there will never be another MJ. I'm thankful that God shared this man with us (the world), and his spirit and legacy continues. Thanks so much for this Thembi-I love it! It’s a year later and his birthday was just this past Sunday and I took the time to watch all my MJ videos, movies, recorded DVR shows and such I recorded from this past June because of how busy life has gotten and just not having the time to do so. Life goes on, but I was going to make that a day to celebrate MJ’s life because I have so many memories from the time I was a little girl and discovered my love for the man and his talent.

I remember being a little girl having to climb in a chair to reach my mom’s record player just so I could play Off the Wall over and over again (and dance with MJ in that fold-out album cover!); my first cassette tape to go with my first walkman was Thriller; I wish I still had the Thriller jacket, MJ dolls, Jacksons watch that sang “Body”, MJ buttons and posters, and other memorabilia as keepsakes still! :)
Although Sunday was to be a time to celebrate what would have been his 52nd birthday, I found myself getting sad at times because there will never be another MJ. I’m thankful that God shared this man with us (the world), and his spirit and legacy continues.

]]> By: Don http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/2009/06/michael-jackson-and-the-five-stages-of-grief-denial.html/comment-page-1#comment-18374 Don Wed, 02 Jun 2010 03:43:54 +0000 http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/?p=1909#comment-18374 I too was completely shocked at the passing of this music legend in the sense that as long as I have been alive, there has always been Michael Jackson. There are no other entertainers who rewind me back to every point in my life through their music, except Michael Jackson. From the times where my sister and I sat in front of the TV and watched as he performed on The Jackson 5 Variety show; to the times where he performed on Soul Train as a teen and always tossed his head backwards; to his Off The Wall days; to his Thriller days; to his Bad and Leave Me Alone era - the magic felt the first time we visited The Epcot Center and even managed to snap a picture of him and Emmanuel Lewis; to his remarkable significance throughout my days of Hip Hop music. There has always been Michael Jackson, and as I continue to live, I am convinced his music will live through me and long after I have taken my final breath. I am always quick to inform the current generation that, as far as entertainers go, my generation was blessed in the sense that saw the magic of Michael Jackson, Michael Jordan and Mike Tyson. All when they were Kings. Great post. Happy to have been fortunate enough to catch the link on Twitter. I too was completely shocked at the passing of this music legend in the sense that as long as I have been alive, there has always been Michael Jackson.

There are no other entertainers who rewind me back to every point in my life through their music, except Michael Jackson. From the times where my sister and I sat in front of the TV and watched as he performed on The Jackson 5 Variety show; to the times where he performed on Soul Train as a teen and always tossed his head backwards; to his Off The Wall days; to his Thriller days; to his Bad and Leave Me Alone era – the magic felt the first time we visited The Epcot Center and even managed to snap a picture of him and Emmanuel Lewis; to his remarkable significance throughout my days of Hip Hop music.

There has always been Michael Jackson, and as I continue to live, I am convinced his music will live through me and long after I have taken my final breath.

I am always quick to inform the current generation that, as far as entertainers go, my generation was blessed in the sense that saw the magic of Michael Jackson, Michael Jordan and Mike Tyson.

All when they were Kings.

Great post. Happy to have been fortunate enough to catch the link on Twitter.

]]> By: Judy Morris http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/2009/06/michael-jackson-and-the-five-stages-of-grief-denial.html/comment-page-1#comment-5185 Judy Morris Thu, 01 Oct 2009 17:50:30 +0000 http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/?p=1909#comment-5185 I am having a hard time with my grief. I grew up with Micheal Jackson's music. He has been on my mind constantly, ever since his death hit the news. I watched that tribute, what got to me was Paris standing there crying, saying that her daddy was the best in the world. I too would like to think that Micheal is out there somewhere safe and where the media can't touch him. He was a talented man, whose music touched us all. How the media treated him , will always be a bitter pill with me. It surprised me to see how low someone would stoop for money,IE: the Chandlers. Martin Bashir and all his lies. I have to admit; though, Micheal was a little strange and eccentric. All through the years, the people who worked so hard to bring him down,seem to forget all the good he has done. His charity work, in the fight against AIDS, always helping sick children. I never saw anyone who was so tortured by the media and public sheep. I have spent a lot of time crying and grieving, just to think of it brings tears to my eyes. I don't think I will ever stop. I won't ever forget. I am so glad there are places, where we can show our grief. God Bless All of You. I am having a hard time with my grief. I grew up with Micheal Jackson’s music. He has been on my mind constantly, ever since his death hit the news. I watched that tribute, what got to me was Paris standing there crying, saying that her daddy was the best in the world. I too would like to think that Micheal is out there somewhere safe and where the media can’t touch him. He was a talented man, whose music touched us all.

How the media treated him , will always be a bitter pill with me. It surprised me to see how low someone would stoop for money,IE: the Chandlers. Martin Bashir and all his lies. I have to admit; though, Micheal was a little strange and eccentric.

All through the years, the people who worked so hard to bring him down,seem to forget all the good he has done. His charity work, in the fight against AIDS, always helping sick children. I never saw anyone who was so tortured by the media and public sheep.

I have spent a lot of time crying and grieving, just to think of it brings tears to my eyes. I don’t think I will ever stop. I won’t ever forget. I am so glad there are places, where we can show our grief. God Bless All of You.

]]> By: Kaitlyn http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/2009/06/michael-jackson-and-the-five-stages-of-grief-denial.html/comment-page-1#comment-4934 Kaitlyn Sat, 29 Aug 2009 01:41:41 +0000 http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/?p=1909#comment-4934 I think the sooner you realise that our beloved MJ is dead the better. Having false hope that he is still alive will not get you anywhere. I don't want to be harsh, but Michael is dead. But not gone or forgotten. Michael would never fake his own death. He loved his family, friends and fans too much to put them through that, and he loved his life too much. As unfortunate as it is, I think that his death has meant that many people have stopped taking him for granted. I personally still cry everyday. RIP MJ love you forever, You're always in our hearts. Always. I think the sooner you realise that our beloved MJ is dead the better. Having false hope that he is still alive will not get you anywhere. I don’t want to be harsh, but Michael is dead. But not gone or forgotten. Michael would never fake his own death. He loved his family, friends and fans too much to put them through that, and he loved his life too much. As unfortunate as it is, I think that his death has meant that many people have stopped taking him for granted.
I personally still cry everyday. RIP MJ love you forever, You’re always in our hearts. Always.

]]> By: Thembi http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/2009/06/michael-jackson-and-the-five-stages-of-grief-denial.html/comment-page-1#comment-4812 Thembi Tue, 18 Aug 2009 22:22:17 +0000 http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/?p=1909#comment-4812 Dear Girls High, I'm not a licensed therapist so I'm not sure what normal grieving is, but a good rule of thumb is that if you find yourself with more sad moments than happy moments, it's best to ask a professional for help. Its always the best in the long run! Dear Girls High,

I’m not a licensed therapist so I’m not sure what normal grieving is, but a good rule of thumb is that if you find yourself with more sad moments than happy moments, it’s best to ask a professional for help. Its always the best in the long run!

]]> By: Girls High http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/2009/06/michael-jackson-and-the-five-stages-of-grief-denial.html/comment-page-1#comment-4811 Girls High Tue, 18 Aug 2009 22:18:59 +0000 http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/?p=1909#comment-4811 I don't know what to think or do all I know is I'm suffering. It is somewhat comforting to know that I'm not the only one. I am so desperate as to think of how we could bring Michael back. I thought somehow we get all of his Christian fans together from all over the world where ever they are in the world and simultaneously have a resurrection prayer vigil. I know that sounds crazy but I'm willing to try anything to alleviate this unbearable pain. I'm also one of those fans who thinks it is possible that Michael may have faked his own death. I wish to God that were true but I can't imagine anything that would keep Michael away from his children or his "This is it" tour. I wake up everyday with him on my mind,I have to listen to his music every time I get in my car, I try not to but I cry everyday. Fellow M.J.J.help!Is this normal grieving? I am extremely angry at Michael's so called friends and or associates. We as fans thought Micheal was being well taken care of and clearly that was not the case. I guess we should have known after that stupid child abuse case. Joe Jackson did not realize what a jewel he had and we as a society did not realize it or we would have treated Michael like the king that he was. I want to know why this guy who said that he predicted Michael's death,why isn't he a number one suspect in the investigation sense he knows so much and how can he say anything he is not a doctor. Supposedly a doctor gave Michael a clean bill of health in May. Something is not making sense. If it is proven that Mr. Murray is the cause of Michael's death, he better hide. We as fans want and demand answers and we are not going to let the media or anyone else forget about Michael or his due justice.I will always love Michael Joseph Jackson and this world has a big void now that it can't fill. Fans look up and imagine Michael smiling. I don’t know what to think or do all I know is I’m suffering. It is somewhat comforting to know that I’m not the only one. I am so desperate
as to think of how we could bring Michael back. I thought somehow we get all of his Christian fans together from all over the world where ever they are in the world and simultaneously have a resurrection prayer vigil. I know that sounds crazy but I’m willing to try anything to alleviate this unbearable pain. I’m also one of those fans who thinks it is possible that Michael may have faked his own death. I wish to God that were true but I can’t imagine anything that would keep Michael away from his children or his “This is it” tour. I wake up everyday with him on my mind,I have to listen to his music every time I get in my car, I try not to but I cry everyday. Fellow M.J.J.help!Is this normal grieving?
I am extremely angry at Michael’s so called friends and or associates. We as fans thought Micheal was being well taken care of and clearly that was not the case. I guess we should have known after that stupid child abuse case. Joe Jackson did not realize what a jewel he had and we as a society did not realize it or we would have treated Michael like the king that he was. I want to know why this guy who said that he predicted Michael’s death,why isn’t he a number one suspect in the investigation sense he knows so much and how can he say
anything he is not a doctor. Supposedly a doctor gave Michael a clean
bill of health in May. Something is not making sense. If it is proven
that Mr. Murray is the cause of Michael’s death, he better hide.
We as fans want and demand answers and we are not going to let the
media or anyone else forget about Michael or his due justice.I will always love Michael Joseph Jackson and this world has a big void now
that it can’t fill. Fans look up and imagine Michael smiling.

]]> By: Neila http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/2009/06/michael-jackson-and-the-five-stages-of-grief-denial.html/comment-page-1#comment-4787 Neila Sun, 16 Aug 2009 00:48:48 +0000 http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/?p=1909#comment-4787 and you're right ... the BET awards were LOUSY and POOR and downright EMBARASSING.... they shoulda waited anotehr couple of days and really practised their performances and got some better celebs to sing/dance..... darn it.... their SO MANY EXCELLANT BLACK celebs!!! where were thye all hiding at?????!!!! they shoulda been supeona'd to perform and give their respects!!!!!!... its embarassing for the jackosn family to know that the balck artist werent even that bothered to put togetehr a good show.... i watched the MIChael Jackson i think it was 40 decades in the music industry anniversary and that was great.... think it was great coz MJ performed in it loads too. his performance with Usher black dude from rush hour was ace and you’re right … the BET awards were LOUSY and POOR and downright EMBARASSING…. they shoulda waited anotehr couple of days and really practised their performances and got some better celebs to sing/dance….. darn it…. their SO MANY EXCELLANT BLACK celebs!!! where were thye all hiding at?????!!!! they shoulda been supeona’d to perform and give their respects!!!!!!… its embarassing for the jackosn family to know that the balck artist werent even that bothered to put togetehr a good show…. i watched the MIChael Jackson i think it was 40 decades in the music industry anniversary and that was great…. think it was great coz MJ performed in it loads too. his performance with Usher black dude from rush hour was ace

]]> By: Neila http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/2009/06/michael-jackson-and-the-five-stages-of-grief-denial.html/comment-page-1#comment-4786 Neila Sun, 16 Aug 2009 00:39:48 +0000 http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/?p=1909#comment-4786 you're absolutely right. Michael isnt dead; he can't be. I believe he's hanging out with his kids... probably got surgery to look like Tito ( and its Tito that really died and they made out that it was Michael) and now Michael is chilling out , got surgery to look like his bro Tito and hanging out at jermaines house, sipping on Jesus juice..... im a big Tito fan now.... i listen to ALL HIS MUSIC and look forward to his forthcoming releases.. coz i know in my heart that thats Michael... but i feel sorry for 3T coz their dad Tito died.. but it was a good opportunity for Michael to leave his debts behind and all his haters. now he can enjoy fame as Tito too.... his 2nd life. Michael has ALWAYS been genious at creativity and getting surgery to look like Tito was hella clever... i dont care what anyone says.... i believe this.please dont try to talk me outta it either. you’re absolutely right. Michael isnt dead; he can’t be. I believe he’s hanging out with his kids… probably got surgery to look like Tito ( and its Tito that really died and they made out that it was Michael) and now Michael is chilling out , got surgery to look like his bro Tito and hanging out at jermaines house, sipping on Jesus juice….. im a big Tito fan now…. i listen to ALL HIS MUSIC and look forward to his forthcoming releases.. coz i know in my heart that thats Michael… but i feel sorry for 3T coz their dad Tito died.. but it was a good opportunity for Michael to leave his debts behind and all his haters. now he can enjoy fame as Tito too…. his 2nd life. Michael has ALWAYS been genious at creativity and getting surgery to look like Tito was hella clever…
i dont care what anyone says…. i believe this.please dont try to talk me outta it either.

]]> By: Abha Kashyap http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/2009/06/michael-jackson-and-the-five-stages-of-grief-denial.html/comment-page-1#comment-4553 Abha Kashyap Mon, 27 Jul 2009 11:26:42 +0000 http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/?p=1909#comment-4553 Michael Jackson is not dead.He is alive in my heart and in all his fans heart.I will not let him die till I am alive.I love u Jackson....................I donot care about what people say about u.you are my hero and love and will remain forever...... Michael Jackson is not dead.He is alive in my heart and in all his fans heart.I will not let him die till I am alive.I love u Jackson………………..I donot care about what people say about u.you are my hero and love and will remain forever……

]]> By: Janet http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/2009/06/michael-jackson-and-the-five-stages-of-grief-denial.html/comment-page-1#comment-4455 Janet Tue, 21 Jul 2009 04:07:58 +0000 http://www.whatwouldthembido.com/?p=1909#comment-4455 Michael has said he is proud to be black. And he has dated a black woman. Her name is Stephanie Mills and she worked with him on The Wiz. Check it out on youtube and you will get a refreshing account of Michael before his life became media fodder. Michael has said he is proud to be black. And he has dated a black woman. Her name is Stephanie Mills and she worked with him on The Wiz. Check it out on youtube and you will get a refreshing account of Michael before his life became media fodder.

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