Comments on: Black Hair Talk: White Girls With Black Haircuts

By: Thembi

Thembi — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 03:08:26 +0000

I’m closing comments for this post because if one more foolish person comments without getting that this piece is satirical I will pull my hair out.

By: Meta

Meta — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 19:01:32 +0000

(Necessity as mother of invention) + (grass being greener) = (imitation as sincerest form of flattery)

By: Uri McMilan

Uri McMilan — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 17:35:16 +0000

Good job, Thembi. Keep it comin! I’m expecting a post when that new documentary about hair by chris rock comes out.

By: Carmenella

Carmenella — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 16:52:55 +0000

I am a black woman with quite a nice, short, natural, fro. and i think that this is all bull. we are all people. and everyone should be entitled to look stupid.

By: lola gets

lola gets — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 03:20:21 +0000

Well, I get your humor, lol, so keep it up!

By: Dara

Dara — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 18:09:24 +0000

there are definitely varying degrees of getting-it-ness going on around here. but i can’t handle the young jawn loopiness right now so i’ll just say thanks, thembi, for another tidbit of insightful humor.

okay so, the discussion of black women’s hair – in relation to that of women with other racial/ethnic backgrounds, images of beauty, etc. – is hearty and complex. we are clearly the only group of people IN THE WORLD who have this hang up. and i’m not one to turn my nose up – i’m certainly right in the middle of it.

but i’m starting to get just a tad annoyed when people who celebrate free choice for black women’s hair preach to and judge other black women for their hair choices when those choice don’t coincide with their views of what’s acceptable, or when that person hasn’t “proven” that they are doing it for the “right” reason. chicks who boast cutting their hair natural 10 years ago (myself included) have to remember that MAD PEOPLE were cutting their hair natural then, and continue to today. the act of transitioning has become a “thing” that, by many black women, is respected and admired. it’s certainly hard to rock natural hair in corporate america without ignorant comments and evil looks, but we can’t pretend that there is not a growing sector of black women with a wide variety of natural hair styles. natural-haired black women have had a lot of support and role modeling going on that let’s us know that our natural hair can be cute, healthy, and beautiful…look at all the hair blogs, youtube video tutorials, message boards, natural hair care lines, entire communities! devoted to natural women. i’m not AT ALL saying that it’s as accepted and appreciated as it should be (dammit, it should be the NORM). but the definition of and discussion about black women’s hair needs to be a flexible (and open-minded) one regardless of what any one of us chooses to do.

i just wish people would step down off of their soapboxes every so often to realize that most, if not all, black women struggle with their hair – long, short, natural, perm, weave, whatever – and until we stop judging eachother for our decisions and keeping ourselves in a box of what’s acceptable, no one else will either.

By: Thembi

Thembi — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 01:32:57 +0000

Miss Mary Mack please stop it! You are too much. Thanks for worrying about my sanity, after 2 yrs of satire blogging its long gone tho lol. My writing is for adults tho, and even they don’t always buy into the humor, I’ve developed a thick skin. Thanks so much for reading…

By: Miss Mary Mack

Miss Mary Mack — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 20:46:03 +0000

Thembi I’ve been following the comments without a whole lot to say but theres s real division here that makes me worried about your sanity – the ones who get it and may/may not have strong opinions, which is awesome because its a good discussion, and those who just don’t get it at all. If you are not open to comedy or satire this is not the blog for you, just leave Thembi alone! Like Nicole said “reading for comprehension,” is required here, only then do you get an opinion! I always ask myself if I ‘get it’ before I comment so it puzzles me, and I don’t only mean this last very young lady who lord knows how she ended up on a grown folks website all confused. I feel bad for you Allee, youre 15 and 90% of your friends are white – you have a long hard road ahead. God bless you.

Thembi maybe you should start a WWTD for Kids!

By: Allee

Allee — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 19:33:10 +0000

I’m a 15 year-old black girl and I completely disagree. There really is no such thing as “black hairstyles” and “white hairstyles”. It’s just that the majority of Black people wear their hair a certain way, because it’s easier for them to manage it, and white people wear their hair in a certain way for the same reason. Everyone’s hair grows at the same rate. Ours just breaks off more because of it’s texture. So the majority of white people have long hair, that has to get annoyingly plain and played-out. If everyone had long hair, wouldn’t you want to stand out? Just like black people who want long hair want to stick out from other people in their race. It’s not a crime for whites to want to cut their hair. When I read this I sensed a bit of jealousy. Maybe you don’t like white people cutting their hair in so called “black hairstyles” because you feel it’s unfair to your culture. Just a hunch. The whole “…keep your hair long and…twirl it between your fingers like a ditz.” thing offended even me! 90% of my friends are white, and I can guarantee you that they aren’t all vapid and ditzy. I found this blog a little racist.

By: stephanie

stephanie — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 07:10:24 +0000

So I am a white girl, with CRAZY wavy hair that nobody knows how to help me tame!!!! I have taken solace in reading your posts and relating to your woes. Look, I am not sure of my heritage as I have never met my father or his side of the family, but I have some CRAZY HAIR!!! It looks like I stuck my finger in a light socket, all I can say is that I love and cherish my blow dryer and flat iron……and hate the humidity! But I live in Florida so I get what I deserve! I wish that I could get out of the pool and not have to tame my frizz asap….. it sucks. But if we all had straight hair…..we’d be soooooo bored with it. Really……think about it it. I wish I didn’t have to spend an hour every three days making my hair tolerable…but some people wish they had what we take for granted every day. The grass is always greener…and I sure have my jealousy….but let’s be proud of our thick unruly hair because people pay to have what we have without trying! Crazy hair YAY!!!!!!!!!!